Healing the Feminine
The Feminine as energy
Feminine energy is the polar opposite of Masculine energy. Operating on feminine energy, however, is not about being female or even archetypically feminine. Feminine energy is less about sex or gender, but more about receptivity, flow, and acceptance of what is. While the Masculine is about the phallic energy of the external (ego consciousness, structure, representation, status, visibility, action), the Feminine is about the energy of the internal, the hidden (the soul, the authentic self, self-worth, values, mystery, and privacy).
Feminine energy is about self-worth, about knowing yourself and being who you are. Having a healthy feminine essence means putting your sense of wholeness and worthiness over the need to be validated by others. Unlike the Masculine, the Feminine isn't about doing or performing an energy or idea, it's about being and embodying it. The Feminine principle within us represents the core of our spiritual being, our soul, and who we are as individuals. Due to its association with the hidden and chaotic, the Feminine also has a strong relationship with the darker, shadowier aspects of the psyche like the subconscious.
Distorted Feminine energy
Polarities are often shadows of each other. Distorted Feminine energy is the shadow of the Distorted Masculine that rules patriarchy and capitalism. Under the reign of the Distorted Masculine's obsession with toxic ways of Doing/Performing (acquiring status, image, and success), the Distorted Feminine has developed an obsession with toxic ways of Being/Embodying, such as virtue-signaling or superficial markers of beauty to mask her lack of self-esteem and worthiness.
While often appearing as a “Girl's Girl“, women who are operating on a distorted feminine paradigm are often overly competitive with other women. The archetypal Distorted Feminine drags other women down through malicious gossip and bullying to compensate for her lack of self-worth. Often insecure, she can only perceive herself as attractive or worthy if she feels “better than“ others. As a result of her lack of self-acceptance and self-worth, she might habitually copy women who embody a more evolved, mature feminine energy or who appear especially attractive to the men she finds interesting.
Healing the Feminine within
The Distorted Feminine lives in a constant state of self-betrayal, abandoning her authentic essence in an attempt to receive validation within the patriarchal paradigm. To restore her core essence, the Distorted Feminine has to heal her wounds around worthiness, self-acceptance, and self-sovereignty. She has to explore why she feels rejected and which aspects of her true self she had to repress to receive love and validation from her parents, peers, and early romantic partners.
Due to the overly performance-driven structure of most societies, schools, and workplaces, a core feminine will almost always have to heal issues around performative, and image-centered themes in the more masculine realm. Depending on their innate ratio between masculine and feminine energy, most Core Feminines will either overcompensate by becoming overly performance-driven (leaning into their Distorted Masculine traits) or by trying to avoid more performative fields and attitudes, leaving them feeling crippled or at the very least self-conscious in regards to their ability to go after what they want in life. Themes all women need to explore around their work life and overall ability to take action are insecurity, toxic perfectionism, and a sense of fear or passivity in regard to reaching goals.
Divine Feminine energy - the new paradigm
The Divine Feminine is the most spiritually evolved expression of feminine energy. A woman - or a man - who embodies their Divine Feminine is fully self-actualized and in complete alignment with their soul's essence. Unlike the superficial, emotionally distorted expression of feminine energy, the Divine Feminine is not about an ideal or idealized form of womanhood or Yin, it's about authenticity and radical self-acceptance - even and especially in the face of criticism and adversity. Divine Feminine energy is extremely rare because the healing an individual has to do to be so at home within themselves is confronting and difficult.
Due to the self-betraying and performative essence of the Distorted Masculine, patriarchal system, connection to self naturally moves an individual into misalignment with the norms and conventions of the matrix. It's knowing, embodying, and accepting ourselves for who we are and naturally extending this energy to others. Unfortunately, few things are as triggering to the collective as women and men who embody Divine Feminine energy. The innate sense of worthiness and unwillingness to compromise who she is makes the Divine Feminine appear as a natural antagonist for people and systems that are out of alignment with their soul's truths. At the same time, having healed from the rules, norms, and restrictions of the matrix makes her a catalyst for other people's emotional and spiritual growth.